Help these good news messages reach more by supporting us via Patreon (USD) or Donorbox (other currencies). In Genesis 2:16,17 it is recorded that God commanded the man, saying Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat: But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest therof thou shalt surely die. A very good friend of mine, a former pastor held on to his faith by a string at one point in his life. ( Log Out /  As you do this, you will find yourself obeying God effortlessly, and you will be a stunning advertisement for the gospel! This is not a issue of logic but evidence and there is plenty of evidence of this sort of teaching on Christian television and in Christian books. If they had trusted him they would have lived – indeed, they would’ve had abundant life – but they chose to distrust and so reaped the awful consequences of their choice.’. Parakouo – to close one’s ears to; to ignore. Thank you for inviting a response from the ladies. Just know that your desire to help your child make better choices is the starting point to healthy change. How to share E2R, Copyright © 2021 Hupakouo/hupakoe – to hear from above; to listen for; to lend an ear to. I rather like the term ‘self-blessification’. The most helpful way to handle this situation is to offer positive encouragement by acknowledging how she cleaned up before dinner. I can obey someone I also do not fully trust. We don’t like it when people just ask us to do things and don’t offer a reason. . Like I said earlier, all children disobey. So what man separated God put back together in marriage and completes this marriage in heaven. Part of being a loving, positive parent is learning to become a detective who looks for clues most people can’t clearly see on the surface. But we cannot escape the fact that she will be our completion. Amen and amen!” Thank God someone kept all the rules and fulfilled them totally so that we can live forever in unbroken fellowship with Him without fear – Honestly can’t think of any better news than this!! It’s as if Jesus never came. i dont think the issue has ever been about God trusting man… its always been about man trusting God. Not only does she not exist if there is no God, she doesn’t exist if there is no Adam. From looking at Eve’s response to the serpent, it appears that Adam did not pass God’s word along accurately. We should be taking an intentional measure of our child’s stress levels by talking with them on a daily basis. And the only way those boundaries are effective is if we hold our kids to them. Do you believe in a God who would condemn me based on that one act of unforgiveness? ( Log Out /  Peitharcheo – to remain un persuaded; to be unmoved by; to be unresponsive to. Jesus told the fruitless ______ tree to shrivel up, ergo perhaps _________ represent flesh, human effort to make it without God. Law came later. Now this all begs the question what did God want us to see in this woman he took out of us.Or what needed to be corrected so that she could be put back, our attitudes changed, enabling us to live in perfect harmony with her and God as one. Under this condition of peer rebellion, only 10% of subjects went on to deliver the high… It happens whether you’re raising toddlers or teenagers. I have full trust in your ability to save”. If you know your Bible history, you will know that rule-keeping is a recipe for disaster. Redemption is not "justification", and neither are salvation. that brings up another question.God was still walking and talking with man,do you think he would somewhat impart what was right and wrong? Amen! Either you rest or work, either you Are saved forever or You were never Saved. ( Log Out /  If you have you may wonder, “How does the love of God figure into this?” The preacher of insecurity has a ready answer: “Heed the words of Jesus: ‘If you love me, you will obey what I command’ (John 14:15). “Having read my little rant you may think that I am against obedience. 7-8) they begin to ask some questions. Long time, first time. She’s visibly frustrated with tears welling up in her eyes because she can’t figure out how to get the game in the box by herself. Thanks for that. So interesting. Rom 5:10, His life being His resurrection, we know it's FINISHED because He was raised. Causes and Impact of Law Avoidance and Disobedience in the Light of Mars Model with Special Reference to Laws for Special Need Persons Vol. Yes God was walking with man , not imparting what was right or wrong (law) but Grace. Peitho – to be persuaded; to be moved; to respond. In eating the forbidden fruit, Adam declared God to be an untrustworthy liar. The revolutionaries were not sitting idle. So good. The basic Milgram experiment underwent several variations. In Genesis 3:2 We see that the woman knows that she can eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden (though the part about eating freely is dropped off), but look what else she thinks God said; verse 3: God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die. Pride says “I don’t need you”. There is the good disobedience, people peacefully protesting for what they believe in, and fighting for a change. This was soooooo good. You are carnal and after picking a fight I don’t think immediately after that you can render forgiveness. Through his actions he was saying, “God, I’m better off without you.”. Relationship with God without commands and obedience is MEANINGLESS! It’s impossible to trust God and not obey him, but there are plenty of people who think they are obeying God yet they don’t trust him. It’s arrogant to say you’re better than others. Curses are the results of disobedience either from self or through the family line. Hi Pamela, Hi Earl Awesome! IN THE DAY that you eat of it you will die. Only it’s not the end of the story. Is it Jesus plus our forgiveness, our mercy etc? But God gave us His covering, warm soft comfortable animal skin (Jesus) even back in the Garden? But this praise must be followed by a clear reinforcement that whenever mommy or daddy calls you, you answer… no matter what. . Learn how your comment data is processed. How to Respond When Your Child Disobeys on Purpose. Is Jesus’ sacrifice enough to save us? This is so clear and really hits the spot. That’s because there may be a logical reason for your child not listening. It’s not about the rules. I’ve refused to believe in the negative labels about children and as it turns out when you expect your child to be a certain way, they will. There was a study done that showed how it was so much easier for a woman to cut in line if she offered a reason. No commands- no possibility of trust. I think we're justified by HIS blood, same thing, nothing I did, have done, or will do, hence rest…. The Bible and God's Spirit are the major elements that promote the … Labeling actually holds us back as parents. Some days I dig in and others I don’t. Thanks for sharing this great article. That’s totally normal and not necessarily a symptom of an underlying problem. This is so obviously true that people have trouble believing it. Try as we might we simply weren’t designed to cope with all that life throws at us. You find your daughter in her closet trying to put away the game she was playing. Many misunderstand what happened in the garden and what the tree of the knowledge of good and evil was, it was not the tree of the knowledge of WHAT IS good and evil. Go and sin no more.” NO CONDEMNATION is what empowers us to go and sin no more because it allows us to COME BACK! Are we reconciled? You cannot serve two masters, NEVER. The secret to life is not “obey or die” it’s “trust God or die trying” (see John 5:24, 11:25). And saw this: “Consider, though, that Jesus said, “You will know them by their fruit.” (Matthew 7:16) referring to how we will recognize his children. Hi Trevor He is Lord. I promise. Your walk with God will be a caricature of true Christianity and you’ll be a bad advertisement for the gospel. So many people need to hear this, again and again. It’s much easier to spend your moments teaching and modeling proper behavior, even ad nauseam, than it is to spend your days constantly correcting the wrong ones. We need to hear this again and again and again. …, There is grace while we learn obedience. The fact is when we disobey we often take the “it’s justified” stance based on our circumstances at the moment. I could name any number of preachers from one side of Christianity to the other who teach obedience rightly. We stop looking for solutions because we believe it’s all a part of the journey. Purchasing online its not effective here because its difficult to get credit cards. Trust me I hear you. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Thank for the post, it does stir up our faith in the finish work on the cross. You’ve been spending time lately teaching her how to put away her toys when she’s done. “Blessification” and i love it! Life is an invitation to respond to the overtures of a God who loves us and desires to share his life with us. I often feel that I need to wash the smell of carne asada off with some real revelation of God’s wisdom, mercy, love & goodness! Quotes from dale carnegie books I love the term self-blessification and I will steal it from you. Ephesians 2:2 - Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience: 1 Samuel 15:23 - For rebellion [is as] the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness [is as] iniquity and idolatry. ), Submission doesn’t mean what you think it means, 6 awesome things that will happen when Christ returns. the Law of Faith. What’s missing? We should be aware of this surprising causes of child disobedience. It verbalises what I have groping to understand and articulate: In a play by the legendary Greek playwright Sophocles, his heroine, Antigone speaks about how her conscience is much more important than the law the king has set, when she defies his laws that prevent her from giving her brother an appropriate burial. It is not mentioned as a measure of love for God or evidence of a relationship with God. And the woman. Again, these may surprise you and help you change your approach to discipline. If a woman can’t be a husband, she can’t be a pastor, right? Indeed the devil’s goal is to foster and maintain our distrust of our loving heavenly Father. I mean, every mom is struggling with their teenager, right? In the bible verse above, Saul claimed he disobeyed God because he was afraid of the people. Your right Paul. When someone feels as if a specific right of theirs is being trampled upon, then they join up with others who feel the same way to do something about the issue. Thank you, Paul. Will we live dependent upon Him or will we try to elevate ourselves to a god of our own making? You must’ve been raised in a grace-filled environment to have had such an experience Doug. However, when there’s a lack of trust or connection this can lead to a child acting out. He’s not testing to irritate you but to simply locate those boundaries so he knows how far to go. [if you cant win them with the truth,baffle them with your BS]…..something to that effect . You find your daughter in her closet trying to put away the game she was playing. We do have a licensee who has just started printing books in East Africa, but that’s a long way from Ghana. Love Paul’s blogs!! You said, Paul, it’s not about the rules, it’s about relationship!!! Able also saved by grace. Without divine commands and obedience to commands THERE CAN BE NO RELATIONSHIP OF TRUST WITH GOD! If there is tension in the home because of constant fighting or maybe financial pressures that spill over into your child’s world, they can internalize this as stress causing them to act out. I have SO been looking forward to this series b/c before hearing the good news of the gospel of grace I was literally living life as “blessably” as I could! Don’t be impressed by the Israelites’ desire to obey – it was a self-righteous boast in their own strinky performance. Here is a scary thought guys , maybe Jesus said that it is better not to be married because you can not enter Heaven without being in perfect harmony with your wife.Work that out with fear and trembling. Learn how your comment data is processed. every citizen must abide by and standing up for a cause. Jesus has given us a second chance but God demands total obedience. There's no known clear cause of oppositional defiant disorder. In Milton’s universe there is no question about punishment for disobedience and revolt. Like I said earlier, all children disobey. I love this! Nothing. Kids will always rise to our expectations! There is a common misconception about obedience. Hi Chrisnanrooyen – Jesus provided the second chance and then did the ultimate – He performed what was necessary for the lost situation to be totally and completely redeemed for us all – it was done perfectly and legally – We were left with nothing more to do bit receive it as a gift! What the first Adam lost the second Adam redeemed – not for Himself but for us!! I (Winter 2020) Page | 289 Some people born with a disability while some become disabled because of some accident. If it was there would have been no need for the ten commandments. Parenting is the hardest thing we’ll EVER do. Thanks for your comment John. The Cost of Disobedience Read the Scripture: John 17:4-8 I have brought you glory on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do. But certainty about God’s nature and ability makes other areas of uncertainty irrelevant. If we don’t forgive, we will not be forgiven. Possible causes include: Sensitivity & emotional change during the age of growing up Influenced by surrounding friends in school, neighborhood etc. After they fully understand what’s expected of them, it’s our job to be the enforcer. There are situations in which we disobey God just because we are afraid of what people may do or say. Hi Chris Many individuals and groups use acts of civil disobedience to challenge modern human rights concerns, such as student loan debt, racially motivated killings, and climate change. With Adam began a misrepresentation of God. Kindness. To be in agreement with God is to be in a position of power in Christ. Don’t you see? Let’s listen to Jesus who says “Neither do I condemn you. There is nothing that we can do to merit Gods favor? Awesome ! Kids are smart and will learn what pushes your buttons and what they can say or do to get you to give in out of frustration. God, just tell us what to do and we’ll do it, God is not judging me according to my obedience, old covenant preacher will use carrots and sticks, Why the Woman of Proverbs 31 may not be your Ideal Wife, Last chance to get your name in Paul’s book, First look at Paul’s new book (and how to get your name in it! What it does mean is that it’s a heart issue, not an obedience issue, and he wants our trust and thoughtful, considered cooperation, not our fear driven, mindless obedience. Indeed, they would’ve had abundant life. Knost. Barry, your missing one critical element. The bottom line is not whether you obey God but whether you trust him. Would appreciate some replies from the ladies , and girls don,t blame the serpent. Joy. Since irreverence produces disobedience, then true reverence will produce and promote obedience. The first commandment God gave was , “Don’t eat from THAT tree.” God trusted man with that command. We forget that they have been greater empires in history before us: African empires, ancient empires like Persian empire, Babylonian, Greek, Roman, British, Russian, and now American empire. We are still given the same choice as. Thanks for taking the time to write your blog and take the “heat” at time also. I know someone who values obedience as much as you do will heed our comment policy and keep any future comments brief (<250 words). To think that we could be equal….. Grace has shown me that I dont even want to try, but rather to rest in His goodness and enjoy sonship. It includes both submitting to Him and then expressing that submission in actions, words and thoughts. The ultimate certainty that God wants us to know is that He is love. I believe children should listen and obey regardless of whether an explaination is ever given. Hi Paul, Does this work for you. Hows it going?? What dont you agree with? God Bless! Jesus is God. I still see the message of try harder preached, and get really tired of hearing it, and seeing the effect it has on others. I am truly going to use this in my next post. It is our faith in Him and His Word that has saved us and made way for his gift of Righteousness to be ours as well as His Abundance of Grace – both received by our obedience of faith in these gifts (that He has supplied to us through His ‘finished work of Calvary’) – Romans 5:17 tells it all re the new born again creation folk – Both Righteousness and the abundance of Grace are gifts t be received – When we get this right then righteous acts will be happening unconsciously and almost accidentally rather than by our attempts to live by rules and regulations!! Saved always saved? And, in the negative form, rather then the word disobedience in the original texts, there is… GOD BLESS. Like us, Adam lived in a world of uncertainty. Sign up to our free email list and we’ll notify you about new articles as soon they come out. actually my wife,agreed with you,and as hard as it is to admit I was,well lets not say WRONG, I see the point,and afraid to admit I knew it before, I couldn’t see the forest for the trees. There is far more to life than we can comprehend or manage. Trust is pure vulnerability based on your belief that the other person loves you and would never intentionally cause you pain. Emmanuel. A new post in the Eternal Security Series! It’s not even the right story. Another awwwwesome post! Environment — problems with parenting that may involve a lack of supervision, inconsistent or harsh discipline, or abuse or neglect The devil will do what he can to make you disobey because he knows that ‘God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient.’ So do what you’re told and obey.”. Change ), You are commenting using your Twitter account. But if your flesh is weak, you’ll be shackled with guilt and condemnation. God Bless! However Abraham was a bit like us and thought there must be some limitations to God’s willingness and ability to save when surrounded by sin. No spam, we promise. He has done all things well! An old covenant preacher will use carrots and sticks to motivate you to obey. The Bible lays out clearly what we are to do and not do as believers in Jesus Christ, and we MUST obey…. When the English translators of the King James version of the Bible encountered the Hebrew words hupakouo/hupakoe and shema/lishmoa they discovered that there wasn’t an exact English equivalent, so they chose the word hearken in their translations which subsequently became an archaic term and was later changed to obey. She’s visibly frustrated with tears welling up in h… Just to add, scripture tells us that Adam was not deceived, the question arises did he lose or give away his authority or did he make an unacceptable sacrifice,or what did his sacrifice entail and what did it lead to, maybe the birth of Christ and our eventual redemption. After they draw straws (cast lots) to determine WHO is the cause of this great calamity and after they get Jonah awake (vv. Aw Thank you for leaving your kind words! And now, Father, glorify me in your presence with the glory I had with you before the world began. Losing your cool or entering into a debate or argument with your child undermines your authority. I think we're saved by Doctrine. The prodigal son says “I don’t need you, give me half of your stuff”. The way how parents educating & bringing up their children e.g. When you know how much your Father loves you and longs to be good to you, he is easy to trust. Love this! What trust and obedience is and what an outward form of obedience without trust is. And making connection with your kid your highest priority is going to help you tremendously on the hard days. We have to remember though that we abey because we love God, and not out of fear and commands because if we dont we will reap consequences. It is no longer about what we can do for God to earn His merit, commands, His Trust. The Gospel in Ten Words He becomes a man. Modern Acts of Civil Disobedience. Right there is your standard sermon on obedience. (Self-Blessification was going on over here in a BIG way! He both added and took away from what God said to him. Either way, pack your bags because we’re going on a flesh trip. From others, you can learn which strategies work and why. The root of disobedience. You could say Jesus,s real death was at his birth life born into death. Such is the life of the insecure believer. Thank you Paul. I Love It ! 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